How to write your wedding vows?
Every person’s most important day – their wedding day! We spend months, even years planning for this day, and some of us know what they want even before we find that special someone we want to share the rest of our lives with. There are so many important details for the wedding day, but there is one moment when all eyes are on you, and everyone listens to what you are saying.
The wedding vows are the moment when you are supposed to tell your partner why you love them and why you promise to be with them forever. Choosing the right words can be challenging, and it seems like the closer you are to the big day, the more difficult it is to write them. If you’ve been struggling with your vows, you’ve come to the right place! Continue reading if you want to know the dos and don’ts and how to capture your feelings in just a few sentences.
Write from your heart
The most important thing is to write from your heart. No matter how good or bad you are with writing, when you sit down and think about your loved one, just put your thoughts on the paper. What do you feel when you think about them? What made you realize you want to be with them? When was the moment you knew that you want to be their spouse? Think about all the little things and just put them into words.
You don’t have to write a lot
One thing people get stuck on is how long the vows should be. When we think about filling two or three pages with words, we get scared, anxious, and we just decide to postpone. Know that you can write just a couple lines, as long as they are from the heart and they show your love for your partner. Don’t focus on the length, and on the same note, don’t write 10 pages. Your main goal is to say what you want and to express your feelings towards your partner, not to share everything.
Including every moment of your time together is not possible
The biggest mistake you could make when writing your vows is to try and include all the details and every moment you’ve spent together. Chances are, you’ve been with your partner for a long time, and putting every moment of your lives together on paper could be too much. You can tell a story or two, but don’t put everything in your vows. Even though there is no rule, it is said that you should not write more than 200 words when it comes to the vows.
Start as early as possible
Some people work better when they are under pressure, but know that the closer the big day is, the more difficult it is going to be for you to focus on this. There are so many things that are stressful, important, and urgent, that you may end up writing the vows the morning of the big day if you don’t start as soon as possible. Even if your wedding is months away, create a draft, and that way, you will be able to change or remove things as you go.
Seek for inspiration
If you are experiencing writer’s block, then you are free to look for inspiration. See what other people have done, check the vows celebrities said to one another, or just ask your friends what they said. One thing you must remember is that you should never copy someone else’s vows. You are saying these words to the love of your life, and you know deep down in your heart what you want to say.
Don’t forget to rehearse, and take your time to read them out loud at least ten times before your wedding day. It is said that you should read them in front of a mirror so you have an idea of how you look saying them. Know that you can always put them on a nice card, and be extra careful not to smudge the ink. These are the words that describe how you feel about your partner and why you are committing to spending your life with them. You already know the answer to that question, so stop worrying so much and let your heart write those words.